There is an irresistable attraction
and an atmosphere of love and passion. Both feel the other person
is their "type", and each tends to get a real ego boost and energy buzz from their partner. She is drawn to him
as a butterfly to the candlelight. Powerful sexual attraction mixed with memories of painful past experiences adds a touch of drama to the picture.
He is not a judgmental type, but she can clearly see his various inadequacies and failures. She knows what should be done of his behalf to be more successful and mature, and in time it might develop into the ritual of sarcastic and critical conversations. But there is certainly an initial attraction escalated by the feel of safety and protection when she is around.
Friendship, Freedom, Inspiration
Where did she go? Her electric personality and unusual twists in relationship strike. It reflects the time of their first date when he was looking for something new, fresh and inspirational. There was something unusual, different about her entire "act". She might be his best friend, but it is tough to let her be free.
Control / Challenges
She may become the most significant person in his life, shaking his world, uncovering secrets, destroying sets of old beliefs and stereotypes, challenging deep fears and unresolved issues. Along with a powerful sexual attraction, she makes him feel powerless. Confronting his hidden fears and emotional implications from the past can escalate very painful experience.
She may not realize how significant he is for her until later in life. In a middle while, it can be a roller-coaster experience.